Beyond My View

I have been taking a deeper dive into the issues our the relationships within the black community. I cannot help but wonder if there are others that think like me. I have a strong desire to bring our community together and to put aside the jealousy, distrust, and the whole “she thinks she is better than me” or “why does she talk white?”  

Why am I so bothered by comments that refer to hair as good or bad or statements about skin color that insinuate that a person is too dark? I rarely hear comments about someone being too light in the black community. When the adverb, “too” is added in front of a description, that insinuates that you are not just right.  

God does not make mistakes. You are who you are, and you must embrace it regardless of what society tries to make you become. 

On another note, we did I become a consumer. Who trained me or what influenced me and made me become this way? Why am I constantly fighting money issues? I know that the very thing that I struggle with the most is the very thing that I am supposed to break free of and help others do the same.  

We are currently on our debt stacking journey for the umpteen time and I just know this time it will be different. I thought when I was younger that by the time I hit 40, I would have it all together. All along, I was carrying this mental baggage from month to month, year to year. 

Just like yo-yo dieting, I was yo-yo budgeting. At times I made a big difference in the way I was handling my finances and at other times, I would be knocked down with an unexpected expense that would completely deplete my emergency fund. I would then have to figure out when I would get extra money to dig out of the whole and at times take on additional debt to help me get closer to becoming “debt-free.” It was the most backwards approach that one could have, and I carried it for a long time.  

I can list problems for days and I have a much longer list of blessings, things that I know only God could bring me through. Right now, I want to focus on the solution. Problem solving 101 for people out there that are sick and tired of being sick and tired. Oppression is a beast, and we are the enablers. 

I do not blame anyone currently living. As a matter of fact, when has blaming others done anything for anyone. When you point at someone, there are 3 fingers pointing right back at you. A statement that I heard growing up that really made me think twice about blaming others. What are the steps that one must take to break this bondage cycle.